What is most afraid of family life: elders are unreasonable,
The problem of food and clothing has been solved, and happiness has become a problem. A few days ago, the National Health and Family Planning Commission and the China Population Welfare Foundation released a report after sampling 10 provinces and cities in the eastern, central and western regions. The report said: elders are not sensible enough, children are not sensible, and husband and wife are not harmonious. It has become the most prominent factor affecting family happiness. .
Elders are not sympathetic: it is easy to think about the whole family in the relationship between mother and daughter, usually because the elders have a strong desire to control, especially for all aspects of their son (daughter), often making the son (daughter) Half feels like an outsider. Over time, small couples often quarrel with their elders and affect their feelings.
From the perspective of the elders, perhaps the original intention is to make their children live better, but we must pay attention to the degree of power, to consider from the overall situation of the family. If you do not care about the feelings of the entire family member, you will not bring happiness to your children, but more troubles.
Sometimes the younger generation will take measures to please the elders, but some elders will either refuse to take a thousand miles, which makes people feel uncomfortable, or they will be more sloppy, and this elder should think more about their children and appreciate their filial piety and not. Easy, a little tolerant to them.
Husband and wife are not harmonious: To communicate more, you can say that your home is a sheltered harbor. No matter what troubles you have at work, you will feel happy when you return home and see your partner and your child. However, some couples are not only stressed at work, but sometimes bring the pressure of work back to the family, so that the family may become a battlefield, and then return to work with bad emotions, and finally the family and work are affected. Some people feel tired after work, and there is very little communication between husband and wife. Most of them think about most of the situation only by guessing. Over time, the relationship between husband and wife becomes cold, and sometimes the couple’s quarrel will bring great psychological trauma to the children. .
Therefore, one of the reasons why couples are not harmonious is that they do not communicate well. There must be more communication between husband and wife, even if you return home to touch the other person's hands, shoulders and other physical contact, it is also an effective communication, so that they will trust each other.
Children are not sensible: to know that more parents are better for their children from small to large, but if this kind of care exceeds a certain limit, the children will not realize the hard work and pay of their parents. It is taken for granted that parents do it for granted. . There are also some children who only concentrate on their careers and friends when they are adults, and rarely leave time to their parents, making them feel lonely and helpless.
Therefore, the most necessary quality for children is to have a grateful parent's heart. It is difficult to know that the parents of the world raise children and raise their children. It is not only an economic investment, but also a heart of selfless dedication. Even if you are busy with work, take time to spend time with your parents so that they will be happier.